Therapy & Theology: The 6 broken promises of pornography

SEPTEMBER 24, 2019

The Proverbs 31 Ministries Podcast
The Proverbs 31 Ministries Podcast

A note from Proverbs 31 Ministries: This podcast contains content that is not suitable for young children. Please see the Related Resources section at the bottom of this page if you need help finding a counselor. 

What if the real struggle behind pornography was actually a deep longing for fullness in Christ? 

You asked … and we listened. We’re continuing our Therapy & Theology series with two brand new episodes of The Proverbs 31 Ministries Podcast. This week we’ve invited Lysa TerKeurst, Proverbs 31 Ministries President and New York Times’ best-selling author of It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way to talk with us on the show alongside Michael Cusick, her licensed professional counselor, founder and CEO of Restoring the Soul Ministry in Denver, Colorado. Michael is the author of Surfing for God: Discovering the Divine Desire Beneath Sexual Struggle. 

In these episodes, Lysa and Michael introduce us to a new perspective on pornography, a subject that’s often avoided in the Christian world but is affecting us all. No matter your stage of life, we recommend listening with an open mind and open heart to gain a better understanding on how to support a spouse, friend or loved one who may be facing this challenge. 

By listening to these episodes, you will…

  • Replace the stigma associated with pornography with a new understanding that the addiction to pornography comes from a genuine desire to be seen, known and loved.
  • Let go of your own fear and guilt because of a spouse or loved one’s pornography addiction and discover the role spiritual fullness and emptiness play in the battle with pornography.
  • Overcome your hesitation to have “the talk” with a loved one about pornography by learning healthy, biblically based conversation starters.

Related Resources:

Click here to download the transcript for this episode.

10 Best U.S. Cities for Solo Travelers

While it’s great to travel with friends, family members, and loved ones, there’s a romance associated with going it alone. Your itineraries are suited to you and your needs only. You can go full throttle or take things at a leisurely pace and choose to make new acquaintances or not. Whether you are a seasoned pro or this is your debut lone adventure, here are the best cities in the U.S. for solo travelers.

Asheville, North Carolina

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A flourishing arts scene and lovable bohemian charm make this city at the edge of the Blue Ridge Mountains perfect for visiting alone. Spend your days browsing the boutiques, galleries, and jewelers of the River Arts District and Downtown Asheville, where street side buskers entertain passersby. You’ll always find someone to chat with at the craft breweries in South Slope and can head into the Blue Ridge Mountains to hike to waterfalls alongside likeminded nature lovers.

Austin, Texas

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There’s few easier ways to strike a chord with a stranger than a mutual love of music. Make your way to the many live music venues in Austin and try your best not to make friends while tapping your feet to honky-tonk at The Little Longhorn Saloon and belting out a Johnny Cash classic at Ego’s karaoke bar. Get your culture fix at the Austin Nature and Science Center and the Museum of the Weird. Then get back to socializing at the hip bars and food trucks of East Austin and eclectic eateries on South Congress Avenue.

Carmel-by-the-Sea, California

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If your plan is to slow things down by getting away from the grind, then Carmel-by-the-Sea is for you. The soft golden sands of Carmel Beach are impossibly instagrammable and invite you to take long walks and dip your toes into the Pacific. Meanwhile downtown, cute cafés and independent shops line Ocean Avenue and its intersecting streets. Art lovers will rejoice over 100 galleries showcasing local and international art. Plan a day amid beautiful nature and traverse the woodland and riverside trails of Garland Ranch Regional Park.

Islamorada, Florida

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Spread over six of the Florida Keys, Islamorada combines coastal vibes with village lifestyles. Try kitesurfing at Anne’s Beach, enjoy encounters with dolphins at the Theater of the Sea, and join a ranger tour around the tropical forests of Lignumvitae Key Botanical State Park. Treat yourself to a luxurious stay at one of the cottages of Moorings Village. You can take your pick of abundant seafront watering holes, where locals are more than happy to share memories of yesteryear.

Las Vegas, Nevada

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With eye-catching neon lights and overstimulating scenery everywhere you look, you don’t need friends to get the most out of Las Vegas. Jump into the heart of the action on The Strip and let your feet guide you to whatever grabs your attention. Maybe it’s the varied retail options at the Downtown Container Park, the old-Vegas vibe of Fremont Street, or the adrenaline-inducing SlotZilla Zip Line. If you hit it hard at a club or stay late at a casino, then refuel the following morning with a hearty breakfast sandwich at Eggslut.

Marfa, Texas

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Artists fled to this quiet Texan desert city in the 1970s and today there’s far more to see than the Prada store made iconic by Beyoncé’s Instagram account. Minimalist masterpieces by Donald Judd are on display at the Chinati Foundation and that’s just one of a host of wonderful galleries. Budding artisans can play at designing their own jewelry at Moonlight Gemstones. You’ll want to follow the crowds to the teepees, vintage trailers, and yurts of El Cosmico caravan park for a good night’s rest.

New Orleans, Louisiana

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Everyone is in a good mood in the Big Easy, so meeting people is never an issue. Find out at the bars of Bourbon Street and Frenchman Street, which are always alive with the sounds of Dixieland and jazz. Enjoy walking the shores of Lake Pontchartrain and finding a secluded corner to rest at in City Park or order a slice of cake at The Station coffeeshop and catch up on some reading. Of course, there’s more round-the-clock fun during Mardi Gras and other annual festivals.

New York City, New York

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Yes, it’s packed with tourists and giddy honeymooners, but New York is just as much a welcoming destination for solo travelers as it is for the rest. Plan your days according to the neighborhoods that you intend to visit. In Manhattan, you’ll find world-famous shopping avenues, iconic landmarks, and Broadway theaters that lure you with star-studded musicals. Or perhaps you prefer the international eateries, galleries, and vintage stores of Brooklyn. Getting out of the city is also easy, with several accessible day trips that make for a nice break from the hustle and bustle of the big city.

Portland, Oregon

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If beer, books, and coffee are your thing then the hipster capital of the Pacific Northwest is the place to be. Bookworms will love getting lost in thousands of tomes at Powell’s City of Books and other charming secondhand bookstores. Grab a cup of your favorite brew or a pint of craft ale at bars set in the old warehouses of the Pearl District. Casual dining and soul food are king at food truck parks such as Cartopia and Hawthorne Asylum. Be a proper Portland hipster by getting around via almost 400 miles of bikeways.

Portsmouth, New Hampshire

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Waterfront Portsmouth is picturesque, walkable, and home to one of the largest ratios of restaurants per capita. Journey back to the city’s 17th-century roots at the open-air Strawberry Banke Museum or come in winter for ice-skating fun on the Puddle Duck Pond. Oysters feature high on the menu and you’ll find dozens of bars serving them fresh alongside other mouthwatering seafood dishes. The Franklin is among the best. With Sagamore Creek Highlands on the doorstep, the tranquility of nature is never far away.About the author: Bradley O’Neill | Writer for The DiscovererFrom as early as he can remember Bradley was road-tripping across the UK, France and Spain with his family. Since then he’s visited 40-plus countries and lived on four continents. Today he divides his time between Buenos Aires and the beaches of Punta del Este, Uruguay and puts his wanderlust to good use by writing about his travels.

Therapy & Theology: Dealing with Anxiety


The Proverbs 31 Ministries Podcast
The Proverbs 31 Ministries Podcast

A note from Proverbs 31 Ministries: This podcast contains content that might not be suitable for young children, and may serve as a trigger due to circumstances in your past. Please see the Related Resources section at the bottom of this page if you need help finding a counselor. 

When hurtful circumstances happen, we wonder, “How will I ever get over this?”

Lysa TerKeurst deeply understands that feeling. Since the release of her latest book, It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way, she’s received hundreds of emails, direct messages on social media and inquiries from people asking her how she got through one of the hardest seasons of her life.

Over the next few weeks on The Proverbs 31 Ministries Podcast, we’re taking a break from our regularly scheduled programming to introduce a 6-week series called Therapy & Theology: How Do I Get Through This? Our goal is to meet you in the middle of your hurt and give you biblical answers on how to move through it. 

In the fifth episode of the series, you’ll hear a conversation between Lysa TerKeurst and her personal, licensed professional counselor, Jim Cress, as well as Proverbs 31 Ministries director of theology, Joel Muddamalle. Together they will unpack depression and anxiety, help you identify triggers and learn how to combat anxiety in a healthy way.

In this series, you’ll learn how to …

  • Overcome the feeling that you’ll never get over the hurt you’re facing by recognizing small steps you can take to get through the hurt, little by little.
  • Replace the negative stigma of “therapy” by gaining a healthy, biblical view of counseling for your situation.
  • Move toward healing today by discovering the two distinct and necessary parts of forgiveness and how to live them out.
  • Find hope in the midst of devastating circumstances by seeking restoration for yourself through prayer and proven exercises to help you process your pain.

Related Resources:

To download the transcript for this episode, click here.