Night Light For Couples

The Renegade Male

“Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” Ephesians 6:4

Author Derek Prince has described the “renegade male” as one of society’s biggest problems. The word renegade actually means “one who has shirked his primary responsibilities.” It is an accurate description of those husbands and fathers who pour every resource into work or pleasure, leaving the child‐rearing task entirely to their wives. Both boys and girls desperately need their fathers, who have a specific role to play in their lives.

Research in the field of child development has confirmed that the absence of positive masculine influence plays a key role in adolescent rebellion, sex‐role identity, and cohesion within the family. Conversely, those who accept their God‐given responsibilities at home have a fleeting—and golden—opportunity to shape the little lives entrusted to their care.

Just between us…

  • (husband) Do I ever resemble a renegade male? How?
  • (husband) In what ways have I been a good father? (For couples without children: What kind of father would I be?)
  • (wife) How have our own fathers been good or poor examples of fulfilling their responsibilities at home?
  • (wife) How, as a wife, can I help you be a better father?

(husband) Dear God, thank You for the responsibility and opportunity to impact my children for good. I want to be faithful. Help me to celebrate— not resent—my fatherly duties. Through my sometimes inadequate efforts, accomplish great things in the lives of my kids. Amen.

  • From Night Light For Couples, by Dr. James & Shirley Dobson
    Copyright © 2000 by James Dobson, Inc. All rights reserved.

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Night Light For Parents

The Glamorous Life

Don’t be deceived, my dear brothers. James 1:16

Many women feel that the job of “mom” is boring and monotonous—and they are right! But so is practically every other occupation. I (jcd) once stayed in a hotel next to the room of a famous cellist. I could hear him through the walls (believe me!) as he practiced hour after hour. He did not play beautiful symphonic renditions; he repeated scales over and over. As the cellist strolled onstage that evening, I’m sure many in the audience thought, What a glamorous life! Some glamour. He spent the entire day alone in his hotel room.

Few of us enjoy heart-thumping excitement each moment of our professional lives. How thrilling is the work of a medical pathologist who examines bacterial cultures from morning until night or a dentist who spends his days drilling and filling? The job of a homemaker can be about as boring as most others. Yet in terms of significance, no job can compete with a mother’s task of shaping and molding a human being in the morning of life (though humanists would have us believe otherwise).

Not every woman chooses to be a mother, of course, but those who do are worthy of our admiration and respect. “Children,” we are told in Scripture, “are a blessing” (Psalm 37:26, tlb). If so, then mothers are His loving gift to them.

Before you say good night…

If you’re a full-time mom, do you feel God is pleased with your service to Him as a mother?

If not, what changes do you wish you could make?

How can your spouse help you make those changes happen?

(mother) Dear Lord, You have called me to the incredibly important job of being a mom. Help me to experience the satisfaction of resting in Your will. Amen.

  • From Night Light For Parents, by Dr. James & Shirley Dobson
    Copyright © 2000 by James Dobson, Inc. All rights reserved.

The Glamorous Life

Don’t be deceived, my dear brothers. James 1:16

Many women feel that the job of “mom” is boring and monotonous—and they are right! But so is practically every other occupation. I (jcd) once stayed in a hotel next to the room of a famous cellist. I could hear him through the walls (believe me!) as he practiced hour after hour. He did not play beautiful symphonic renditions; he repeated scales over and over. As the cellist strolled onstage that evening, I’m sure many in the audience thought, What a glamorous life! Some glamour. He spent the entire day alone in his hotel room.

Few of us enjoy heart-thumping excitement each moment of our professional lives. How thrilling is the work of a medical pathologist who examines bacterial cultures from morning until night or a dentist who spends his days drilling and filling? The job of a homemaker can be about as boring as most others. Yet in terms of significance, no job can compete with a mother’s task of shaping and molding a human being in the morning of life (though humanists would have us believe otherwise).

Not every woman chooses to be a mother, of course, but those who do are worthy of our admiration and respect. “Children,” we are told in Scripture, “are a blessing” (Psalm 37:26, tlb). If so, then mothers are His loving gift to them.

Before you say good night…

If you’re a full-time mom, do you feel God is pleased with your service to Him as a mother?

If not, what changes do you wish you could make?

How can your spouse help you make those changes happen?

(mother) Dear Lord, You have called me to the incredibly important job of being a mom. Help me to experience the satisfaction of resting in Your will. Amen.

  • From Night Light For Parents, by Dr. James & Shirley Dobson
    Copyright © 2000 by James Dobson, Inc. All rights reserved.